Sometimes I fee like I am living a very non-normal life. I get questions all the time on how I do it? Most of the time, I don’t mind questions at all. Even though I hear them a lot, I assume people ask because they genuinely curious. Sometimes I think people ask because they want to know what the secret is.
All the questions I get makes me think, I am lucky to be in a long distance relationship. There is no secret to what we are doing. The pieces that really make an LDR work are the same as a non-distance relationship. Communication, trust, happiness and knowing the deal breakers. The big difference I see is that a non-LDR, you can kind of get away with a relation without these working well for a long time as long as you have distractions (lust, hobbies, kids, etc). In an LDR, you are kind of left with just the fundamentals of a good relationship. There are no distractions. If my boyfriend was an asshole, but the sex was good, I might look the other way for a while. Yes, eventually I will get fed up, but I could probably patiently hope that something will get better for months if not years. If my LDR boyfriend was an asshole, I would be fed up fast… because nothing else is distracting me from seeing his true self.
Does that make sense? In my head it does. It’s funny how long we can sit around saying, this person is perfect, except for this major element… so we sit and hope that we will deal with it, he/she will change or that something will happen to force that one piece that doesn’t fit in the puzzle. Continue reading
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